Tag Archives: emotional health

When it’s not what you thought it was

So, Girly decided FIRMLY that she wanted to learn violin this year.  I’ve seen her do this before:  when she was 4 years old she decided FIRMLY that she wanted to learn piano and learned the letters A-G so that she could do so (although she insisted “that’s letters, not piano!”)

So… the violin… which is not even close to what she thought it would be.  And it’s definitely highlighting a lot of challenges we have not seen before…

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Giving the inexpensive gift of peace

Are you done with the holidays yet?  We’ve been done with them for years, but transitioning our kids and our extended family to the space we have landed in has been difficult for sure.  For now, we have to control what we can–but that’s more than we realized…

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Building independence skills

I have thought an awful lot about building independence in my kids.  I’ve written about it here and pondered the maturity changes here.  But recently one of the Parenting Partners took it to a whole new level.  One I never thought of before, but needed to.

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How to avoid raising an entitled kid…

Many families in my generation and the next generation down have turned their backs on the way we were raised–when children were to be seen and not heard.  Parenting culture was different.  Expectations were different.  We began to respect these little people and recognize them as humans rather than property.  We gave them more freedom to be children and develop at their own pace.  We allowed them to have a voice.

But some of us didn’t do a stellar job at transitioning them into being respectful and compassionate young adults that could do what they were told WHEN they were told to do it and the WAY they were told to do it.  We quite accidentally created very entitled kids…

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Check in with yourself and see where you want to be

Every day is a new beginning.  I am always motivated in the spring.  Maybe it’s the lengthening hours of sunshine and the starting of my gardens.  Life is bursting forward and I am running face into the wind with all of it.  It’s a good time to check in with yourself and see if you are where you want to be…

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She is brown…

Girly was placed in our home at 12 days old.  From birth, she had very little human contact and there are a lot of reasons for this–but it was what it was.  I didn’t grasp how “big” that was.  Twelve days didn’t seem like a long time.

As an ignorant adoptive parent who didn’t know what I didn’t know, I have since learned an awful lot.  And one of the things that I learned a lot about (and continue to learn about) is race.  My now-7yo daughter started teaching me that as an infant in ways I never expected. Continue reading She is brown…